i posted this in the french forum but no info yet , this is a little urgent :my friend lives in holand she is married 3 years and a month now to a dutch man in the last year he became very abusif he hit her many times , yesterday she told him she wants to get a driving licence she needs a car to go to work so she needs to save some money from her salary and he started a big argument , she gives him half of her salary he is an ass hole with a big mouth, always taking her money , anyway yesterday he hit her and pushed her against the wall , she phoned this morning crying and told me all about it she doesn t know what to do : her questions ; she is been married 3 years and 1 month last month she did apply for dutch nationalite , her husband is making her beleive that without him she won t get nationalite , she passed the exam of nationalite and he went and applied for her, and he is using this subject against her he is telling her he will divorce now and she get naionalite ????, she is asking: is it true to get nationalite she needs to be maried to him?or she can get it on her own because she passed the exam and stayed 3 years ? he hit gainst the wal and her head is swollen i told her to go to the doctor amay be it is an internal bleeding she is worried the dctor will call the police ? and she is worried she will lose her papers and found herself without nothing ?she spent these last 3 years learning th language and working and she passed the exam successfully of the nationalite but still he tells her she is in a weak situation and it s up o him to get her the nationalite or not and it is in his power if he divorce that she end up without papers? is this correct or is he just bullshiting her? is there a women organisation there which could help her ? he even went to his doctor and he is trying to portray her as one wih some mental problems he asked her doctor to prescribe stress pill for her eben she is not sufering from anything , he hit her so many times then he denies it and say it her the violant one ? he broke a house window and took a photo of it and says thats a preuve agains t her she is the one who broke it , he is the violant one and he lies and hide the truth and plays with her mind? she really needs the answer for this question : is it necessary to be married to him to get nationalite which she applied for last month? she wants to move out before she get killed one day? but she doesn t now her legal situation and he always singing this to her : she is nothing without him and just with one phone cal from him he could stop her application for nationalite ???thank you//en.yabiladi.com/topics/advice-please-44-2106875-2106875.html#msg-2106875 Thu, 04 Jun 2026 21:32:44 +0200 Phorum 5.2.15